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What Is A Female Man Cave Called

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The concept of a man cave isn’t hard to grasp. However, what might be a little more puzzling is why they’re limited to men. The burdens of modern life are universal, and everyone needs a space to unwind. With more people working from home than ever before, household tensions are all the more probable. Fortunately, there is a space available to women, too – a place dedicated to the necessary act of self-care that is isolation.

Now, there’s a good chance that the very mention of the word isolation sent an uncomfortable sensation through your bones, and for a good reason, but in this article, we will attempt to reclaim its use and remind everyone of the benefits of alone time in the right environment.

Maybe you need to have a space to work quietly, away from the family, a room where you can blast your most nostalgic ballads without fear of reprisal, or maybe you need to sit in peace for a moment and reflect.

Whatever your needs, the space you’re looking for might be referred to as a ‘she shed’ or ‘woman cave.’ It could even be called a ‘lady lair’ or a ‘fem den.’ Or perhaps you think gendering these things is a bit foolish, and you just want a tidy pad of your own. Whatever you call it, here are some ideas to create your space.

Instagram Vs. Reality

If you’re looking online for ideas for your ‘woman-cave,’ you’ll be coming up against idealistic, stylized social-media posts that may or may not have any basis in reality. If you simply want a pastel box full of throw rugs and pillows, then the chances are you’re a cat, and that’s fine, but you can probably find what you’re looking for in the master bedroom of a decent foster home.

If, on the other hand, you’re an adult human and you’re looking for ways to have a functional space that’s not only a comfortable representation of who you are but also useful, then read on!

Your Own Space

There’s no specific template for a woman cave or she-shed. These spaces are designed by you, for you, and they can be however you like. The purpose of the design in your woman cave is to be unapologetically you, to escape from the restrictions of conformity in your main house, and to retreat back to a safe space for unwinding. While the design is important, the desired function of your cave will determine how you make use of the space you have.

If you need a space for your home workouts without being on display, or to paint, draw or otherwise be creative, a studio design might be a good idea. Look for inspiration from other home studios online to see if anything catches your eye.

If you like the idea of a traditional man cave, with game consoles and TVs, there are plenty of ideas for these available too. There’s no reason you can’t have your own gaming room or pool table and minibar. Comfy chairs, cinema sound systems, and game tables for poker nights are welcome additions.

Setting up your cave as a spare bedroom helps when space is limited and you can’t justify taking up an entire room permanently. Perhaps reimagining your teenage room with a desk and some posters will be a special kind of retreat that can then double up as temporary accommodation for guests where necessary.

If you’re looking for a space to work uninterrupted, a comfortable office environment might be suitable. Keeping things simple and minimalistic might help you study or write without distraction, and the simple design won’t take a lot of work or money to accomplish.

On the flip side, a full-on luxury temple of opulence might be what you need to get your head back in the game. Perfect lighting is essential: candles, twinkle lights, lanterns, maybe even a lava lamp. Feather pillows, soft rugs with wooden furniture, and an unobtrusive but high-quality sound system can turn your space into a cozy little paradise retreat.

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She Sheds

If you’re looking to build your space outside of the house, you can gain valuable advantages from being that much further from the harsh reality of home life. Something about leaving the house to enter your woman’s cave adds a psychological edge to the experience and can contribute to the feeling of being on holiday. Compartmentalism is a heck of a drug, but there are some considerations to consider to make sure you can capitalize on it.

While the most common location for a she-shed will be in the garden, they can be practically anywhere. You can have a she-shed in an allotment or at a friend’s house. You could have a she-shed on the seashore from which to sell seashells. Wherever it is, though, it’ll likely be outside, and the most apparent issue you might face with this is the cold. A space heater or specific insulation will help keep the temperature up on cold winter nights.

For heating and lights, you’re going to need a power supply. Solar lights are getting much better nowadays, but you’ll be hard-pressed to find a heater that can run cheaply on solar. If you want to stay off-grid, decent insulation and lots of blankets could be a solution, but chances are you’ll be better off with an extension lead coming from the kitchen.

Privacy and security are critical to a successful retreat into a she-shed. Good curtains and a lock on the door will mean that nobody can interrupt your zen without your permission. It’s also essential to be able to lock up when you’re done, so you can leave your cave items behind safely.

Final Thoughts

There’s nothing inherently comfortable about a cave. At its core, it’s a dank, dark escape from the harshness of the world outside. It’s easily defensible against bears, protects you from the rain, and you can paint all over the walls. But throw in some lanterns and some nice pine furniture, put some curtains up and lock the doors, and you’ve got a woman cave. Or a man cave, or a whatever-kind-of-person-you-are-cave.

What’s important is that it’s a You cave, and it’s up to you what it’s for and how to use it. And you can decorate it however you like! The point is, it’s your space, and you don’t have to compromise on that. Retreat, unwind, work, play, exercise… cave possibilities are endless.